As far as I remember, I have always been the open and speaking your mind person in all my relationships. Also I’ve been the one to take the first step, talk openly, say that I like you, always making the first move. But coming to think of it, I’m doubting if that seems a bit too odd. Do guys like to be the empowered and taking first step ones? I’m fine with being bold and saying what’s on my mind but I’m wondering if that’s ok?
I personally feel that as long as the message gets across there’s no difference if the guy or girl made the move. Of course I wouldn’t say throwing yourself at someone is okay, but I’m just talking of asking someone out, saying you’re cute or asking for their number. I would go with a guy who can handle that his girl is as smart and upfront as he is or even better. I don’t think it’s a bad thing at all. They should be proud of being with someone who has a free mind and courage to speak it out. And most of the times when a guy approaches you he’s looking for fun but mostly girls only take a step when they are being genuine. Exceptions are always there, but we’re talking generally. And I say, even if we want only fun then who the hell tells us its wrong and when guys do the same its all okay.
Can’t boys handle the fact that someone is interested in them? Do they get scared of our confidence ? Is being bold and upfront scary? Do we have to suppress our freedom to express to serve their male ego?
If you’re wondering where all this came from then:
I was just on line on facebook and my dance instructor there, I chatted with him for a while, I told him that I used to have a crush on him and he replied ‘Ok’. What’s Ok??? Did he get scared? He didn’t seem to respond much than yes and no after that and I said bye and logged off. I don’t know if I did the right thing, well he’s moved so another city and left my dance academy so I won’t have to face any embarrassing moment, but I really wished he could have been little more expressive there. Even if you’re not interested, if someones using the word *crush* for you, people please be polite there may be some soft feelings attached there. I didn’t expect him to say ‘me too’ or thank me but if you know you’re handsome and cool then be polite if people like you. He was always so humble in classes. Dun know why he didn’t respond well said he was busy.
Here’s the chat I had with him (some edits done only for being anonymous)
How u doin?
m doin gud
u still in M——?
D was tagged in a photo.
so howz d new dance place?? havin fun?
nice pic btw..
u look diff though
so u neva comin back to D—–?
u do noe me right?
ya i thnk
every1 in class missz u
ya .. im miss u guyz too
hey can i tel u a secret…
its not a big deal though..
jus sumthn silly!
u gota proise no making fun
i kina had a crush on u for a litl while
lol!! even writing *crush* sounds schoolish
so u like M—–?
y aits fun
whr u stayn?
signed ny movies yet??
no yaar jus 1 ad n couple of photo shoots
ooohhh.. wch ad?
its a good start..
its new drink lauchin called t——
wil watch 4 it!
btw u belong to D—- right?
i always wanted to ask u how did u decide on taking dance professionally?
i mean its a diff decision right?
u seem busy
lil busy m sry
is dis bad tme 2 chat 4 u
m wrkin rite nw on sumthin ..m really sry vl chat latr
np!ctch up later sumtym….
c ya in D then!!
I’ll send him a light message after few days.
Does it sound desperate? Should I send it or not?
Was good talking to you the other day after long time. Hope I didn’t scare you with d crush thingy. Dun worry nothing like that now. Lets catch up when you’re in town. If you want that is.