The first move; guy or gal?

As far as I remember, I have always been the open and speaking your mind person in all my relationships. Also I’ve been the one to take the first step, talk openly, say that I like you, always making the first move. But coming to think of it, I’m doubting if that seems a bit too odd. Do guys like to be the empowered and taking first step ones? I’m fine with being bold and saying what’s on my mind but I’m wondering if that’s ok?

I personally feel that as long as the message gets across there’s no difference if the guy or girl made the move. Of course I wouldn’t say throwing yourself at someone is okay, but I’m just talking of asking someone out, saying you’re cute or asking for their number. I would go with a guy who can handle that his girl is as smart and upfront as he is or even better.  I don’t think it’s a bad thing at all. They should be proud of being with someone who has a free mind and courage to speak it out. And most of the times when a guy approaches you he’s looking for fun but mostly girls only take a step when they are being genuine. Exceptions are always there, but we’re talking generally. And I say, even if we want only fun then who the hell tells us its wrong and when guys do the same its all okay.

Can’t boys handle the fact that someone is interested in them? Do they get scared of our confidence ? Is being bold and upfront scary? Do we have to suppress our freedom to express to serve their male ego? 

 

If you’re wondering where all this came from then:

I was just on line on facebook and my dance instructor there, I chatted with him for a while, I told him that I used to have a crush on him and he replied ‘Ok’. What’s  Ok??? Did he get scared? He didn’t seem to respond much than yes and no after that and I said bye and logged off. I don’t know if I did the right thing, well he’s moved so another city and left my dance academy so I won’t have to face any embarrassing moment, but I really wished he could have been little more expressive there. Even if you’re not interested, if someones using the word *crush* for you, people please be polite there may be some soft feelings attached there. I didn’t expect him to say ‘me too’ or thank me but if you know you’re handsome and cool then be polite if people like you. He was always so humble in classes. Dun know why he didn’t respond well said he was busy. 

Here’s the chat I had with him (some edits done only for being anonymous)

1:16amN

hi D

u thr?

1:18amD

hi

1:19amN

How u doin?

1:20amD

m doin gud

1:21amN

u still in M——?

1:21amD

ya

1:21amN

k

1:21am      

D was tagged in a photo.

 

 

 

 

 

 

1:21amN

so howz d new dance place?? havin fun?

1:22amD

ya

1:23amN

nice pic btw..

u look diff though

1:23amD

thnx

yaa!

1:23amN

so u neva comin back to D—–?

1:24amD

i mite

1:25amN

u do noe me right?

lol!

1:25amD

ya i thnk

1:26amN

:)

every1 in class missz u

1:26amD

ya .. im miss u guyz too

1:27amN

really!!

1:27amD

ya alot

1:27amN

hey can i tel u a secret…

its not a big deal though..

jus sumthn silly!

1:28amD

ya teme

1:28amN

u gota proise no making fun

promise*

1:29amD

ya

1:29amN

i kina had a crush on u for a litl while

1:29amD

ok …

1:29amN

lol!! even writing *crush* sounds schoolish

1:31amN

so u like M—–?

1:32amD

y aits fun

1:32amN

whr u stayn?

1:33amD

b——

1:33amN

signed ny movies yet??

;)

1:34amD

no yaar jus 1 ad n couple of photo shoots

1:34amN

ooohhh.. wch ad?

its a good start..

1:35amD

its new drink lauchin called t——

by t——–

1:36amN

wil watch 4 it!

sound nice!

1:38amN

btw u belong to D—- right?

1:38amD

ya

1:43amN

i always wanted to ask u how did u decide on taking dance professionally?

i mean its a diff decision right?

1:47amN

u seem busy

1:47amD

lil busy m sry

1:48amN

is dis bad tme 2 chat 4 u

1:48amD

m wrkin rite nw on sumthin ..m really sry vl chat latr

1:48amN

np!ctch up later sumtym….

gdnite! tc

1:51amN

c ya in D then!!

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I’ll send him a light message after few days.

Does it sound desperate? Should I send it or not?

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Hey there,

Was good talking to you the other day after long time. Hope I didn’t scare you with d crush thingy. Dun worry nothing like that now. Lets catch up when you’re in town. If you want that is.

Cheers!

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